Most people think the only reason to say goodbye is if something is broken or has gone wrong…
Things can hold you back.
When you collect things that you don’t love, don’t need or don’t use, you start to become burdened by them.
Junk in drawers & under the sink, piled in the closet and boxed in storage. Beliefs. Relationships. Jobs. Habits. Experiences. All the things that no longer serve you. They take up time and space in your life. But we want clarity. Freedom. Peace.
Why is it so hard?
Our brains evolved to seek pleasure, avoid pain, & conserve energy by default.
– Saying goodbye is difficult because we have to choose.
– We don’t want to feel regret.
– It’s easier to stay the same. Even if what’s familiar is not serving us, there is still comfort in it.
Goodbyes are necessary because they allow us to focus on what really matters. Most of us are overwhelmed by our lives. We have so many friends, obligations, opportunities, invitations, things to do, etc… Simplify by letting go. It takes energy to own things, take care of things, store them, clean them, focus on them. You can lighten your load by making conscious decisions about what you want in your life, starting right now.
You can let relationships with thoughts, beliefs, things and people go with intention and be at peace about it. Goodbyes can be good.
How to Say Goodbye
Re-decide. On everything. Would you choose it again today?
To let something go does not make it less meaningful; It just means the relationship is complete.
1. Make a list of things you have in your life, in your home, your friendships, habits, thoughts.
2. Decide on purpose what you want to keep, item by item.
- Ask: Do I love this? Do I want it? Is it serving me? Is it outdated? Does it spark joy? As you are going through your material belongings, pick them up & touch them.
Say goodbye. Allow yourself to feel the loss.
Tip: If you have something that reminds you of someone that you love and are having trouble letting go, remember the person is not in that thing. Decide on one thing you love the most that reminds you of them + keep it where you can see it.
Once you have said goodbye, focus on what you DO want. Make decisions clearly. Allow an ending to be what it is & choose not to regret. You can always start a relationship again later but staying true to your goodbyes will allow you to grow into an updated version of yourself.
Let things of the past be complete. Dream. Set new goals. Be willing to let go in order to move forward.
